I am working on my third orthopedic surgery in as few as…6 months. I am also working on a good case against…growing old. As I sit with leg up, staring at the fake neon stars that I have plastered on my ceiling…I am chased by the ghost of…Ruth past…
A woman of vim and vigor. Outdoorsy and often likened to a forever Phys. Ed., teacher. No matter the meditation…gratitude can be so fleeting but dejection of self can be so…easy. So basic. As simple as, preferring rain over a sunny day.
However, in a spurt of wisdom, years ago, I choose an advocate. She is my wife. She is my life. And, certainly, she sets my shit straight when it starts to go awry!
Recently, out of the blue, whilst I sat in the blues…She said to me,
‘Even with your hair unwashed, bad breath and hopped up on pain medications, you inspire me. Hard to believe your cynicism grows sexier as you grow older!’
Alas, on that note…a thought from Dear old Ben,
The Paradox of Older Women and Young Girls! You choose!
- Because as they have more Knowledge of the World and their Minds are better stor’d with Observations, their Conversation is more improving and more lastingly agreable.
Because when Women cease to be handsome, they study to be good. To maintain their Influence over Men, they supply the Diminution of Beauty by an Augmentation of Utility. They learn to do a 1000 Services small and great, and are the most tender and useful of all Friends when you are sick. Thus they continue amiable. And hence there is hardly such a thing to be found as an old Woman who is not a good Woman.
Because there is no hazard of Children, which irregularly produc’d may be attended with much Inconvenience.
Because thro’ more Experience, they are more prudent and discreet in conducting an Intrigue to prevent Suspicion. The Commerce with them is therefore safer with regard to your Reputation. And with regard to theirs, if the Affair should happen to be known, considerate People might be rather inclin’d to excuse an old Woman who would kindly take care of a young Man, form his Manners by her good Counsels, and prevent his ruining his Health and Fortune among mercenary Prostitutes.
Because in every Animal that walks upright, the Deficiency of the Fluids that fill the Muscles appears first in the highest Part: The Face first grows lank and wrinkled; then the Neck; then the Breast and Arms; the lower Parts continuing to the last as plump as ever: So that covering all above with a Basket, and regarding only what is below the Girdle, it is impossible of two Women to know an old from a young one. And as in the dark all Cats are grey, the Pleasure of corporal Enjoyment with an old Woman is at least equal, and frequently superior, every Knack being by Practice capable of Improvement.
Because the Sin is less. The debauching a Virgin may be her Ruin, and make her for Life unhappy.
Because the Compunction is less. The having made a young Girl miserable may give you frequent bitter Reflections; none of which can attend the making an old Woman happy.
8thly and Lastly They are so grateful!!”